These Are More Like Fate Than Fate Itself (Weibo)

Most of your life, you don’t know what you’re doing or how you should do. It’s like some kind of mental disability passed down from generation to generation.

You can’t have a complete understanding of how to spend youth when you have youth. It is impossible to have both middle age and complete knowledge of middle age. It is impossible to have both love and complete cognition of love. It is impossible to embrace death and have a complete understanding of it at the same time.

These are more like fate than fate itself.

JANUARY 18, 2021

Bạn chỉ thấy tôi ăn thịt nướng, uống cà phê và trà sữa mỗi ngày. Khi tôi giảm cân, tôi hầu như không ăn gì mười ngày. Tôi chạy bộ vừa chạy là hết nửa tiếng. Tôi không biết mình đã từ chối bao nhiêu bữa tiệc để giảm cân, đã nghiến răng nghiến lợi cho qua bụng đói kêu vang bao nhiêu đêm. Bạn không thấy những thứ này, bởi vì tôi thực sự chưa từng làm.
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你们只看到我每天吃烤肉喝咖啡点奶茶, 我减肥的时候十来天几乎不吃什么东西, 跑步一跑就是半小时, 为了减肥推了不知道多少饭局, 咬牙扛过了多少饥肠辘辘的夜晚, 这些你们都没看到过, 因为我也确实没干过。
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You only see that I eat barbecue, drink coffee and milk tea every day. When I lose weight, I hardly eat anything for ten days, and I run for half an hour. I don’t know how many parties I have denied to lose weight, and how many hungry nights I have clenched my teeth. You haven’t seen it, because I really haven’t done it.

20 Cruel Truths About Love (Weibo)

About Love

1. Don’t accept someone because you are soft-hearted. When the throbbing caused by emotion fades, you will regret for a long time that you have promised to be together too hastily.

2. When you and your partner don’t understand each other because of the different pace of life, please create a common ground for each other in time. Feelings without a common life circle are like a bacterium leaving a petri dish, which will die out automatically after being exposed to the air for too long.

3. If you feel that you can’t go on with him, don’t break up in a hurry, try to reconcile first. Maybe your long-standing conflict is just a misunderstanding.

4. Everyone is a partner for the first time, so give him more time and patience to learn how to love correctly.

5. Sometimes, love requires some pretense. For example, when he bought a lipstick of the wrong color, or he cooked for the first time and made a dish that he couldn’t swallow. Love needs encouragement to nourish it.

6. Give each other some personal space. Love is like cooking. If the temperature is too strong, you will burn the pan; if the temperature is too low, the food won’t be cooked. You have to adjust the heat properly.

7. When you think he doesn’t like you, he really doesn’t like you (too much).

8. Stop loss in time. If you find yourself often uncomfortable or wronged in this relationship, please leave. Don’t be embarrassed, or try to shape his personality again. How can he be reborn in a few months with his stereotype that he has built over 20 years?

9. Don’t worry about establishing a relationship with a person. Spend more time to see if he is suitable for you, which can effectively avoid mutual torture after falling in love. People who really like you can wait for a few months.

About Lovers

10. Just because a person doesn’t care about you in the way you want doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.

11. It’s really important to be suitable. What matters is not only the equivalence of financial capabilities, but also the combination of family education and personal ambition. Two people with unequal spiritual worlds and psychological gap will make each other unlovable.

12. Apart from being nice to you (good for no money), please carefully consider getting married with a boy who is useless. A boy who has accomplished nothing has a lot of time which is his cheapest thing. To judge whether he treats you well is to see if he is willing to share his most precious things with you.

13. Asking him to prove his love for you by “making love” will only gradually push him away.

14. He who likes to hit you through words often loves himself most. People who really like you will never let you get hurt.

15. Don’t fall in love with someone who has been in love for more than two years. Two years is like at a crossroads of love. You choose to get married or break up. There must be something more unbearable for a girl to break up regardless of the sunk cost.

About Yourself

16. Don’t fall in love for the sake of love. Everyone in the world has their own development time zone. Some people seem to be walking in front of you, while others seem to be walking behind you. But in fact, everyone has their own steps in their own time zone, so there is no need to envy or laugh at them. They are all in their own time zone, and so are you. Life is waiting for the right time to act. So, take it easy. You are not behind, and you are not ahead. Everything is on time in your own time zone arranged by fate.

17. It is necessary to maintain an independent self at all times. The significance of love lies in people’s self-growth and emotional perfection, rather than just being attached to the big tree. When you lose your self-worth, you start to become dispensable.

18. Leaving is the normal state of life. It is painful to break up, but don’t be afraid of pain. The earth can spin around without anyone, and so can your world. Don’t think you can’t find anyone better than him. In fact, the next one is always better than the previous. All existence follows the law of conservation of matter. If someone owes you something, there will always be another person to pay you back.

19. Don’t marry someone because of money, and don’t marry someone because of love. You will have an ideal love when you lead a lively life alone, you two will have a better life experience together.

20. You know, you are the only best girl in the world. Don’t rush to open your heart to others just because they are a little nicer to you. In fact, you are really good, and you don’t need to be loved by making a compromise.

JANUARY 17, 2021

Từ nhỏ mẹ đã dạy tôi rằng, phải lịch sự với người khác, phải chú ý đến cảm xúc của người khác, phải khoan dung độ lượng, phải kính già yêu trẻ và lễ phép. Về sau, gặp đủ loại người muôn hình muôn vẻ, lúc ấy tôi bắt đầu hi vọng rằng, mỗi người đều có thể có một người mẹ.
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从小我妈就教我,要礼让他人,要注意他人感受,要宽容大度,要尊老爱幼有礼貌,后来我遇到了形形色色的人,这时候我开始希望,每个人都能有妈妈。
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Since I was a child, my mother taught me to be polite, pay attention to others’ feelings, be tolerant, respect the old, care for the young and be polite. Later, I met all kinds of people, and then I began to hope that everyone could have a mother.

Some Little Blessings In A Winter Day (Weibo)

1. Wearing a cotton jacket and eating hot baked sweet potatoes grilled by street grandfathers.

2. Tying the long trousers into the socks, tying the autumn clothes in the long trousers, and holding you in the palm of my hand.

3. Staying in bed as long as I like, and playing with my mobile phone in bed.

4. Sitting around with friends, eating hot pot, and gossiping.

5. Resting and soaking my feet after a busy day.

6. Wandering around the streets in the afternoon, and holding the warmth of hot milk tea in my hand.

7. Opening the curtains to let the sun shine in.

8. Putting my cold hands in my partner’s coat pocket.

9. Getting up early, and eating the sausage egg cake made by an aunt at the entrance of the block.

10. There is a warm bathroom heater to let me take a satisfying hot bath.

11. In the cool air, there’s a bright warm sun hanging in the sky.

12. Reading a favorite book quietly in the heated study room.

13. Family and friends far away from home call and say that they will go home for New Year get-togethers.

14. Stinky tofu with steaming soup on the street in winter night.

15. Looking up, and suddenly seeing snow from the sky.

16. A cup of hot milk tea to warm my hands.

17. Grabbing the ticket to go home on the Spring Festival travel rush.

18. Sleeping in bed for ten more minutes.

19. Chatting with old friends in the sun.

20. Eating dumplings made by my mother.

21. Receiving a hand-woven scarf from someone who likes me for a long time.

22. A warm bear hug when meeting someone I like.

23. When sorting out the wardrobe, I find that there is money in the big cotton jacket I wore last year.

24. Taking a winter trip with my family and my partner.

25. The distance by car not too far.

26. Snow not blocking the road.

27. After a work’s day, I go home with warmness and full meal waiting for me.

28. The person who spent the winter with you last year is still around.

29. When winter comes, can spring be far behind?

JANUARY 16, 2021

Thông qua dấu vân tay có thể thấy được tính cách của bạn gái, ví dụ như vân tay của cô ấy thường rơi xuống mặt bạn cho thấy tính cách cô ấy khá nóng nảy.
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通过掌纹, 可以看出女朋友的性格, 比如她的掌纹经常落在你的脸上, 说明她的性格比较暴躁.
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Through the palm print, you can see your girlfriend’s character. For example, her palm print often falling on your face shows that her character is rather violent.

A Wise Person Is The One Who Asks For Nothing And Everything In Peace (Weibo)

“Stress” originates from inner conflict, which is an internal imbalance which negative emotions have the upper hand. It’s a joke to say that “There is power when there is pressure”. Internal power and pressure are not the same thing. Anything will deform under abnormal pressure. Besides, there is no greater power than inner peace. A wise person is the one who asks for nothing and everything in peace.

JANUARY 15, 2021

Một số người nói tôi không đúng giờ, tôi cười, mỗi ngày tôi đều đói lúc 12 giờ.
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有人说我不守时,我笑了我每天一到晚上12点就饿了。
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Some people say that I am not on time. I laugh. I am hungry every day at 12 midnight.

This Is What People Often Call Introspection (Weibo)

It is necessary to have enough life experience to help a person have the ability to think independently and truly have his own thoughts and concepts.

Being young means that most of the things in your brain are other people’s ideas and most of them are other people’s thoughts. Therefore, most of the time, young people just either suffer from other people’s ideas or take delight in other people’s thoughts.

The stupidest thing in a person’s life is that they never compare their own ideas with their own experiences. They don’t know how far their thoughts and ideas are from their true self.

This is what people often call introspection.

JANUARY 14, 2021

Bộ não là vật dụng cần thiết hàng ngày, tôi hy vọng bạn không dùng nó như một vật trang trí.
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脑子是个日用品,希望你不要把它当做装饰品​​。
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The brain is a daily necessity, I hope you don’t use it as a decoration.